Often, the most crucial support is simply being there to listen without judgment. Let your loved one express their fears, anger, sadness, or even hopes, without interrupting or trying to “fix” things. Acknowledge their feelings and validate their experience.

Sometimes, words aren’t necessary. Your quiet presence can be incredibly comforting, whether it’s sitting with them during treatment or just being in the same room.

It’s okay to admit you don’t know what to say. Honesty like, “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you,” can be more genuine than forced positivity. While you shouldn’t make their diagnosis about your feelings, sharing that you’re scared too can help them feel less alone.

Understand that their emotional needs may fluctuate. They might want to talk one day and prefer solitude the next. Don’t take it personally.

Reassure them that it’s okay to feel whatever they’re feeling – sad, angry, or scared.

A hug, a hand squeeze, or a comforting touch can convey care when words fall short, but always be mindful of their comfort level with physical contact.

While cancer is a significant part of their life, it’s not their entire identity. Continue to talk about everyday things, share jokes, and include them in activities as they feel up to it. Don’t stop inviting them, even if they often decline.

Phrases like, “You’re so brave” (though well-intentioned) can put pressure on them to always appear strong. Similarly, avoid saying “Everything happens for a reason” or comparing their experience to others.

Terms like “fight” or “warrior” can be empowering for some but burdensome for others, especially if the cancer is advanced. Ask how they feel about such language.